It’s the family caretaker’s dilemma. You can’t do enough. Especially if you find yourself caretaking more than one person. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the people I’m caring for were satisfied, more than satisfied, pleased, grateful for what I’ve done? “Thank you. You’ve done enough.” Caretaker heaven. Every caretaker’s dream.   Professional caretakers learn to cope with this dilemma. They have to “turn it off” and go home when the shift ends. If they don’t learn, they burn ou

I stumbled on a teaching from Sogyal Rinpoche, and I want to share it, talk about it. I don’t know him, so I google him, looking to learn something about him so that, in introducing his teaching, I can put it in context. I discover that he’s a contemporary of mine, a Tibetan teacher who retired in disgrace amid accusations of sexual and physical abuse and financial improprieties.   I am stopped by such revelations. I still haven’t gone back to reading Alice Munro.  She was my

We had a longer wait for the urologist than I expected, but when he finally appeared the news was good. No cancer. Dee and I rode that wave all day. Out of the blue, she kept smiling at me, saying, “I’m so happy.” I felt the euphoria too.   And there was more good news. The urologist wasn’t pushing for bladder surgery either. When I asked about “something natural,” he suggested Saw Palmetto. I was surprised and delighted. My doctors don’t usually seem open to herbal alternati